I have had a talk with a lawyer friend of mine and he said that when I was given the bag of fabric it was legally a gift free and clear so I was within my legal rights to take it and keep it if so desired. So obviously there was no way that what was said to me in that shop was appropriate or even based on legal principles. As long as I know that I think I can live with this now, without an apology and as long as my husband is not brought into it or mistreated. I know I cannot win anything here without my husband suffering for it and this is unacceptable to me. He does far more good for this charity than any other manager I believe and has even been given an entry in who’s who here for the amazing turnaround he brought to the charity’s flagship store. I am saddened deeply by this matter especially since my son saw me weeping yesterday when I heard that my husband had been spoken to repeatedly about this matter yesterday, while I was not contacted at all. This was my issue as a customer and I feel like I was treated like a naughty and dishonest worker and then shunned. Surely if I had been seen as a customer at some stage they would have listened to what I was really saying. I did speak with the next person up the chain….who took the same tack at first, you know why did I accept it….well duh…cause they throw it away otherwise. After some discussion he said he would ensure that my husband was kept out of it…he thought he was anyway he said. I asked him after that conversation to put what he did say in writing but am not confident he will because doing so would be an admission of some sort and would really upset customers. I know better than to expect that now but my husband is really angry about how I was treated as is my son and though we cannot say much publicly about this I am not so sure CJ will keep quiet as he is a writer and is absolutely livid about this. I was even thinking of all those whistle blower cases and how they end up…we had a little taste of it today and as I have serious health issues and David is grieving about his mother’s amputation and impossible state of health I just cannot take this any further. I am just not strong enough. thank you so much for your wonderful support…it has helped me so much to know that you too are outraged. Below is a small selection of the splendors of this fabric. There was fifty five odd metres in the end….and there was enough of the silk to make curtains and full length gowns.
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Isn’t that embroidered silk sickeningly beautiful…and yes it is all back with the charity where I must trust that it will now be properly treated. No wonder I cried…. I love fabric.
i would have cried too – especially over silk – especially, especially over silk that may possible be thrown into a bin – you are truly admirable.
MQ, I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much lately (I am just catching up with reading). Gawd, never darken that shop’s doorstep again. “Charity” is clearly beyond them.
You should have kept the fabric and used it wisely and with good will. We know, and so do they (and they’re embarrassed) that they would have tossed it. I guess they just hold that the best line of defence is offence.
Take your business elsewhere; it will ensure that it blows over for your husband, and they are not worth your trouble in any case.
Hi ladies…yes am never going in there again and my friend had a bad experience there too this week where she said the new manager hounded her into buying something. She said she would never go in there again either so that is a lot of business lost. Good news though Ted Noffs the drug charity has opened a lovely boutique style store here and it is much nicer than this one. I cannot stand cramped charity shops anyway and this chain is all about the money now and have packed the store to the rafters…it is hideous so good that I am not ever going back there again
I’m glad to hear you won’t go back. I feel so outraged on your behalf. Turning the other cheek takes great courage – especially when you’d like to rip their heads off! Grrrrrr ….
How is the electrical problem going ….. it sounded so dreadful? I am so sorry you have so much on your plate right now. And MIL – is she doing OK?
Take care.
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