Today a seventeen year old blogger, whom I spent a lot of time emotionally supporting well into the night both here and in America came clean about her lies about having cancer and the death of her father and sister, amongst many other things. She has had two blogs over quite a long period of time which I and many many others had believed were set up as a support network to help her deal with her:
1] heart transplant some time ago
2] her many surgeries for cancer
3] her abusive mother and sisters
4] the death of her father and sister
5] the recent bone marrow transplant
6] the surgery on Thanksgiving
My son said that it might be a good idea if she privated or password protected her post as she could get a lot of attention which could backfire on her as not everyone is as forgiving as most of her regular readers. I actually removed her from this blog and stopped supporting her with platitiudes on her blog after I realised that her problem was escalating when she flippantly mentioned that her father had died. Although when she said she wanted to take drugs I could not restrain myself and also when she said she was talking about having sex after her Bone Marrow Transplant!! Tough love I guess…which she responded to. I have sent a comment to her blog but am not sure if it has gone through or not and as I feel quite stongly about this for various reasons here is the comment as I sent it to Kaylee.
Kaylee I have known for a long time that you were misleading us and that was why I withdrew from talking to you here and by MEEBO ….it was hard for you to keep the lies straight after all this time and also your attention seeking was escalating with almost every month that went by. You even mixed up your lies between your old blogger blog and this one. Your voice also changed over time so that yoiu sounded much younger than your age…although I put that down for a long time to the pain and suffering you were going through.
I do forgive you but must say that I was extremely upset when I realised that much of my energy, time and good intentions had been misplaced …especially when as you say other people have cancer or very real deaths in their families.
Though you have fessed up you need to be aware of the implications of this sort of thing on others ….I spent long periods talking to you when you said you could not sleep and neglected my own family’s needs and my own physical pain in the process.
You say you are depressed, that is all you suffer from and I hope you do get help and I hope you disclose this whole WordPress blog history…including your one on Blogger to the therapists. I am no expert but would think this goes well beyond depression. You knew how I felt about this kind of hoax many months ago so then would have been a good time to fess up. I even mentioned in a post how much I hated the dishonesty some people perpetuate online and you agreed with me!
Lastly…you say you left school…I do think that if you have too much time on your hands it would be good to do some voluntary work…ask your therapist about what you could do to really help others less fortunate than yourself…and there are always those in the world.